Don't Be An Edwards Dumbass, Support Your Wife

Well... with this blog post I'm venturing into some strong opinion territory so consider this fair warning. I might offend you but this is how I feel about the matter.

I don't care what political persuasion you come from, but any guy who has an affair on his wife who's battling breast cancer is a complete dumbass in my book. Let me understand the thought process John Edwards must have gone through... "Hmm, my wife is in the fight of her life battling breast cancer, so it's probably okay if I cheat on her with this woman over here. After all, I'm a candidate for President. No one will catch me." Somehow I don't believe Edwards even thought that hard about it. [And clearly, I'm being sarcastic here.]

Wow, some guys are so incredibly stupid that they have to go and remove all doubt. I guess we're all fortunate that someone with Edwards' incredibly poor judgement didn't receive his political party's nomination. I just feel deeply sorry for Elizabeth Edwards who has shown great courage battling stage 4 breast cancer. Here's a woman that's in a fight for her life and had to watch her husband lie publicly about his infidelity.

Obviously, you can tell my disdain for someone who would make this poor a decision and show such a lack of integrity and love for his wife. I can't imagine too many scenarios, i.e. zero, where anyone would view the decision Edwards made in a good light. The reaction to Edwards' affair has been strongly negative across the board.

So, if there are any husbands out there thinking an affair while your wife has breast cancer is a good idea, clearly it isn't. It's an incredibly selfish and hurtful thing to do, and you'll certainly come out on the bad end of the result, so please, please, I plead with you to turn your focus back to loving your wife, supporting her no matter how difficult what you're going though is. Use Edward's bad judgement as an example and go back to supporting your wife.

Comments

[Dress]

if there are any husbands out there thinking an affair while your wife has breast cancer is a good idea, clearly it isn't.

[Tony Ulrich]

I think you hit the nail on the head, Mitchell. As a husband of wife with breast cancer, I completely understand that everybody deals differently with situations like these. I myself harshly critiqued the author of an article, where he tried to give advice to husbands as to how they should behave when they get the news broken about their wife's breast cancer diagnosis. He suggested to be ‘supportive’. “Wow”, I thought, “really”??? What a surprise! I thought I should be completely oblivious and ignorant??..(yes, I'm being sarcastic.)

But with all due respect and understanding for everyone's own approach in dealing with the situation: Cheating on your wife is just despicable - under any circumstances. Period. But if a man has the scrupulosity and energy to do that as his wife is battling with cancer, he shouldn’t have a too much of a problem with just telling his wife that he sees another woman. That doesn't make his wrongdoing any better, but at least leaves him with some dignity.

Tony.